More Wedding Stuff and Premarital Counciling

Well the wedding planing is a lot better now. I still feel bad about all the money that has been spent so far. But I am getting excited. I got my dress!!!! It was totally God. I was so worried. We tried Davids Bridal a while back and it was horrid. The store and the dresses were dirty, the girls who work there are stuck up and have an attitude about them like they are so great because they work at a bridal shop....I dunno. And all the dresses were in plastic bags and you couldnt really see what they looked like unless you opened them up. Problem is if you open one up like my mom did you get a sales girl come pretend to "help" you while reaching for the dress and telling you how you are not allowed to do that and that its for everyone's safety. uhhhhhh are these dresses going to explode if you touch them?! Im sorry but for the quality of their store and customer service they dont deserve to have attitude. Anyways so I didnt really know what I was looking for then. After researching online I found a designer I really liked. So I searched for places around here that might carry it. I found a place in Simi Valley called Kays bridal and made an appointment. I went with my mom one afternoon and was happy and quite surprised at what a difference there was. The ladies were friendly and helpful. None of the dresses where in bags. They were clean and beautiful and reasonably priced and we got to touch and look at all the dresses they had out. Now while this was awesome I was still worried because they had told me that because it took four months to order and receive the dress and I only had two months until the wedding I would have to buy one they had in the store. :( I remember praying a few times for God to help me find one. Just bring me a beautiful affordable dress. And what happened next is why I say it had to be God. The lady is walking around suggesting dresses. she takes me and about three dresses to a fitting room. the first one I ask her to help me with she says oh this one is brand new. We went to market and wanted to get more variety in different sizes and we liked this one. we have only had it in the store 3 days and your the first to try it on. We have been wanting to see someone in it. I get all laced upand she takes me out to the main room to look in the mirrors and me my mom and the lady both were just stunned. Its like it was made just for me!!! Needless to say that day we left with dress bought and a beautiful handmade headpeice and a veil. Just recently we got all the bridesmaids measured and dresses ordered. And Allen and I went to Mens Wearhouse and got the tuxes set up except the guys need to go get measured. I am getting excited. We still have things here and there to take care of. Like giving the deposit to the photographer and getting favors for the tables. But yaaay!
Now on another note. I finally got to ask my grandmother if she could marry us. However there were conditions. Which were expected. My grandmother is a pastor and she takes marriage very seriously. Because it is one of the most powerful bonds spiritually. The bible says where one can cast a thousand two can cast ten thousand. And with a good godly marriage nothing can come against us. So thats why she requires the bride and groom and best man and maid of honor to be born again. What does this mean? Not literally physically born again as a baby. But spiritually. Walking the right path. Because a marriage will not last if it is unequally yolked. And her marrying us means she will be held accountable before God. So yeah all it takes is a simple prayer. Doesn't mean you are converted to another religion. Just basically renewing your life with God. Asking for forgiveness of your sins and starting new. Another requirement which is pretty standard for most Christian based religions is Premarital Counseling. Allen and I didn't know we would have to do this still seeing as we are technically married. But yup my grandma kinda sprung it on us. I was a bit annoyed at first but then quickly thought, why? This could be good. It will be educational. And the persons counseling us are people I have know since I was very young. And I love them to pieces. We had our first session on Tuesday. And it was really good. Even Allen seemed to not be so put off by it anymore. We learned a lot about ourselves and our personalities and why we are great for each other. We learned what marriage truly is in Gods eyes and because we finished that lesson a bit early we did another half lesson which was what the role of husband really entitles. It was very good and I am excited for the next session. We have 6 sessions before the wedding. Well like 4 or 5 and a half now. But yeah I am very happy with how things are going right now.
One last cool little thing that happened. So during our session Allen gets asked if he works. Allen has been out of a job for 6 months now and has been having a hard time finding anything. That night they pray for him and they pray for Allen to get a good job one that pays well good benefits something he can do and enjoy. The next day at the end of my work day one of the ladies at work comes up to me with some papers and says has Allen found a job yet? I said no and she hands me these papers for a government job. I looked them over and it was a clerical job in camarillo but it was working for homeland security and immigration just an office that happens to be in camarillo and he could totally do it!!! It was office work easy. And they have great benefits and good pay. I was so jazzed. I I talked to my mom about it later that day and she said the night before she had also prayed for Allen and jobs. We helped him update his resume today and he applied online. I am praying for him too. I am trying to stay positive and be confident that he will get this. coincidence? maybe. Could I be setting myself up to be let down? yes. But it is important that I stay positive and supportive for Allen. And put my trust in God. I have already experienced things like this before and not been let down. If it is Gods plan that Allen should be at that job and if Allen truly wants this. Then he will have it.
I love this stuff :0)